Everyone already knows the gold standard for loyalty. That would be 300 Spartans defending the pass of Thermopylae in 480 BCE, suicidally brave, homicidally skilled, faithful unto death to their values and standards. After being betrayed, before being massacred by a huge army of invading Persians, their leader asked one of his soldiers to “go tell the Spartans that we lie here, obedient to their laws”.
Does such a pure, platonic form of loyalty have any place in international affairs? Admittedly, those Spartans were obedient to their own laws, not to any community of interests embodied in an alliance. (None of their allies turned up to Thermopylae.) Nor were King Leonidas and his men beholden to any great and powerful friends; rather, they selflessly fought alone against a disconcertingly vast horde of enemies.
Any show of subservience would debase and degrade the currency of loyalty, now as in 480 BCE. No Spartan would have offered allegiance to another sovereign. None would have fawned nor flattered tyrants. When warned of the variety of Persian weapons, one hoplite wryly noted that anyone who knew anything about freedom would fight for it with his bare hands.
The Qianlong Emperor did not bother to tell the British that “you don’t have the cards right now”, that “your country is in big trouble” or that “you’re not winning this”. Those put-downs, from Trump to Zelenskyy, could persuade any ally that adjectives like “special”, “personal”, “reliable” or “permanent” no longer go with the noun, “relationship”.
Acknowledging reality, doing a bit of mental fight, rarely hurt anyone. Thinking about diversifying relationships may be easier if we borrowed terms from elsewhere, global hedging from the domain of finance or polyamory from the realm of sex. Holding your nerve remains critical; again, Carney from Canada has set the bar (and set it quite high).
To borrow another expression, this time from tea towels and fridge magnets, we need to “keep calm and carry on”. In their neighbourhoods, China has no allies and India no friends. They get by.